
Accountability - More Than Just Confession
What is accountability?
Accountability is an intentional relationship of confession, prayer and healing.
Intentionality
In order for accountability to be healthy and biblical it must first be intentional.
For an intentional partnership both people need to buy-in to it, and have an agreed agenda. Buy-in means that you both see the value in accountability and enter in to the relationship with joy and purpose. An agreed agenda simply means that you are both in agreement on why you meet, when you meet and what you discuss when you meet. Without intentionality, accountability runs the risk of being ineffective or sidetracked by disputes.
Confession
The three pillars of accountability are confession, prayer and healing [James 5.16].
Just as having no agenda will sidetrack your accountability, so having no confession will cripple it. An accountability partnership is only as valuable as the truthfulness of its participants.
For your accountability partnership to be biblical and healthy it requires a willingness from both parties to open up and allow themselves to be vulnerable. Each person needs to know they can trust the other. For trust to be maintained, confession must be kept in confidence [Proverbs 17.27; 18.8, 21; 21.23].
Prayer
Our response to confession is prayer – for forgiveness [1 John 1:9], help [Hebrews 4:16] and healing [James 5:16]; both for ourselves and for one another. When we pray this way there is great power in it [James 5:16].
For healthy, biblical accountability we should pray for each other not just in the moment we meet, but also throughout the week. Scripture teaches us that we should pray constantly [1 Thessalonians 5.17], steadfastly [Colossians 4.2], earnestly [Phillipians 4.6], with devotion [Acts 6.4] and humility [Luke 18.9-14].
Healing
As believers our sin should convict us, but it is important to remember that it does not condemn us [Romans 8.1], and nor should accountability. Rather, it leads to healing [James 5.16], promotes love and good works [Hebrews 10.24-25] and refines us to be more like Christ [Proverbs 27.17].
As part of the healing process, we will at times need to call our brother or sister out of their sin. This should be done with love and gentleness [Galatians 6.2]. Dietrich Bonhoeffer wrote, “Nothing can be more cruel than the leniency which abandons others to their sin. Nothing can be more compassionate than the severe reprimand which calls another Christian in one’s community back from the path of sin.”




